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Updated almost 6 years ago,

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Amy T.
  • San Francisco, CA
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Tenants boyfriend spending the night every night

Amy T.
  • San Francisco, CA
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A year ago we had a situation where one of our tenants took on a roommate who was not added to the lease. When my tenant decided to leave at the end of her lease she gave her 30 days notice and her roommate wanted to stay there and bring in a roommate. We told her they would need to go through the application process. Long story short we discovered a criminal record (check fraud), short work history, and low income. Her potential roommate had bad credit, lots of debt and short work history. It was an absolute no, although I tried to let her down nicely. She was quite upset and started making threats that legally we needed to give her 60 days notice and that she was going to talk to her lawyer. We got her out in time but it was stressful and eye opening in that we had not done our due diligence by vetting her when she moved in as a roommate.

Our new tenant has a new boyfriend that has started spending the night every night. We know this because of security camera footage (that I check fairly regularly because we have a STR in the unit next door). Today she asked if she could change the shower head stating that she is too tall for it. She is not, but her boyfriend probably is. Our lease states that she can't have overnight guests for more than 10 nights in a 6 month period without permission first, and that any added roommates need to be approved by us and/or added to the lease by going through the application process. We don't want an issue like we had before where someone gains rights we didn't grant them. I predict this is someone who we would not approve, which will has the potential to create conflict.

She is first likely to state he isn’t living there, is going to get defensive because it feels like I’m acting like a mom micromanaging her (fair enough) , and she could possibly ask us to approve him.

I’m looking for advice on the best way to approach this without creating a bad relationship with my tenant, but also with protecting our property and our landlord rights.

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