From personal experience the more you get involved the more you are involved. 

I am looking for a real estate agent to work with and would love if I could find someone that is involved in the bigger pockets community.

So, the lion's share of situations will involve an ignorant or otherwise hampered seller OR a cunning seller. 

Investing in as a LP vs being a GP involves so many other factors. 

You should get a lawyer involved to draft the contract and owner finance terms.

Understand the fees involved and calculate the total cost for an entire year of management so you can compare the different managers.

There is the bank and probate involved so it will take a long while to sort through and will likely bypass more common abandoned house measures like short sale and courthouse steps auction as they wade through it all.

Perhaps you can even get your kids involved in the rehab process.

I believe you've gotten overly involved already. 

The option agreement is what gives one the option to buy the home without being obligated to purchasing it3- more involved process than simply signing a lease or a purchase agreementIf your main objective is to prevent breaking a lease, finding a property with "month to month" leasing may be your best bet.