If I've heard something that gives me something to follow up on, I make a mental note about it.But.....I do not argue, try to persuade or otherwise present my side or tell anybody why they are wrong and I am right.  

Currently I am reading Getting Things Done and it seems to really stress writing things done and prioritizing.

Drop "training" from both your spoken vocabulary and your mental thought patterns.

Prioritize the lender that communicates well and actually answers your questions correctly and in a timely manner.

. ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ This Right Here^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^As mentioned, you asked how to deal with this mentally and Nathan answered that question - get a property manager to deal with tenants.

These builders & flippers, etc are risking their money daily (Plans aligned, calculated) in order to grow personally, mentally, & physically.

And nobody can take it type of mentality

That's pretty much what they all prey on, ignorance, easy money, laziness and the mentally challenged promising that unrealistic dreams can come true.

Without getting too political, I think that's a result of the "welfare" mentality here on the Harbor, where a lot of people don't have to work.Speaking of work - although the unemployment rate is really high - I've never known a good person that couldn't find a job.

Sounds like you re-prioritized to your long term benefit.