A few specific questions:What is the best rental calculator to use in this kind of market for an appreciation/equity-building investment strategy?

You can sell it, sometimes it can be transferred to the buyer, but 99% of buyers do not want it so the most common is to pay it off through escrow with the proceeds from the sale, or some variation of that.

But I’m thinking it may add to the What the OP is asking.I have heard all kind of rates for the PM here in San Antonio.

So that being said, no judge is going to look very kindly on a company who takes your security deposit with this kind of documentation. 

I made an offer for a 20 unit property in Asheboro last week - didnt get it and am kind of relieved - hard to know where that submarket is heading. 

An area of town in my area seeing the same kind of moves those would almost be the same numbers I’d value the property with but folks around here revere county data as the final word

Kindly tell her you don’t want nor need to hear the details or circumstances surrounding the separation / divorce .

I need to know what kinds of attorney's I should be looking to speak to and also CPA or Tax consultant  to look for?

It sounds like you own the property as tenants in common. 

If you listen to them regularly, you'll start to hear common themes with knowledge that you can apply for your overall investing strategy.