One wonders if the independent is being squeezed out completely like occurred in the book business I was in years ago.

i am going to be asking questions. i sure have a lot of them that "guru books" never seem to cover...like WHERE do you buy materials?

Bigger Pockets has a great forum called "Real Estate Guru, Book & Course Review" that you can check out, and many of the current firms selling mentor services are on there.

If it is privately held (or the bank actually keeps the loan on their own books, which is rare in the overall scheme of things), they can do whatever you can negotiate with them.

Any good books to read about NNN investing?

Meaning I haven't find alot of books that will go through the whole process from beginning to end.

If you want to make a deal before the sale, you need to get in touch with the owner.Note that you will be one of dozens or hundreds of investors that make contact with such an owner.There are numerous books available on how this process works.

The lease should get a security deposit and in every way be a normal lease, whatever normal is in your area.I recommend you have a look at Wendy Patton's or Andy Heller's books on lease options.As to being able to "sell" such an arrangment to another investor, no idea.Jon

How can I convince her to agree with me about investing in real estate, also how can I get her to read any of the investing books that I have read in order to have a remote understanding as to waht I want to do?

Well, you do have a phone number with your name, address, and phone number in a phone book, right?