I think self management would be very doable for you and your spouse provided you either buy decent units or get them renovated quickly minimizing the need for time consuming repairs.

I'm also thinking about looking to co-share the ownership.  

Yes, I think you would be fine with your lender, many people move out of a primary and turn into a rental. 

Saying that it's 200+ is for those recently receiving entitlements, old Ex-Army guys like me, my entitle was established when I got out so it's about 75-90K I think.

What I'm talking about is basically asking the selling agent, "So, do you think this seller would be receptive to an offer of $90K?".

Would really appreciate any insight you have on resources I should look into to learn more, point me to companies that specialize in this, or anything you think I would need to know to get started.

If you have please fill us all in I think this could be a huge opportunity for a lot of VA buyers that are looking to think outside the box. 

I know its my first time but I really want to be successful with my first wholesale deal, not only for myself but to show my parents that I can do it.Do you think there would be anyone looking to buy?

I think this strategy can still work if you have an ADU or maybe a separate living area with private entrance.I think a competitive price for travel nurses would range between $1600-2k per month.

I think you're right about selling if you haven't been able to find a renter in 10 months.