Given the choice, err on the slightly generous side.  

In their experience, pretty much everything is usually then gone within 24 hours as the owners move what they can, but the neighbors take the rest.I feel bad about that and I'm not sure how to reconcile that with the reality that this is all a result of choices they have made.  

Gas is always the better choice.

However, I don't think out of state owners is your best choice.

With that comes management, your choice.

I thought the mullet was a better comparison - it's a discretionary choice and lifestyle decision that was popular for ~10-12 years.  

In that regard it is a personal choice based on tolerance for risk and willingness to deal with potential hassles.

Single graduate students are always my best choice. how would you prioritize for other cases at 1 bedroom apartment?

If they get your money, there are problems, etc and they won't give it back you have two choices: walk away and lose it or hire an attorney at your expense to try and recover it.

I'm also trying to look at this decision as which choice would make me a happier person, with great relationships, in the long run.