I don't know what the availability of MF is like in the Bay Area but I bet the loan limits are higher.

All bets are off in the retail space right now and if you loose a tenant like a Walgreens or CVS or restaurant they can be difficult to fill and expensive to upfit for a new tenant.

Are they violating terms of the marketing platform?

The facility is in NC. 152 unitsYour best bet would be a local bank or private investor.

I think your ambitions and goals are admirable and realistic but I really want to caution you against hedging all of your bet into one property and not having the emergency funds that are needed.

I will bet they ask you to take less commission on their property.

They might opt to stay but I'd bet they will not be happy and will not make pleasant neighbors.  

Some people will look at a building and see a dump with a low return on investment while others will see a huge opportunity to renovate and make great money.For this triplex here are some questions to ask yourself:Do I believe in the local economy (this is important as I believe any real estate investment is fundamentally a bet on the local economy)Do I think rents are going to steadily rise over next 5 to 10 years?

Happy to offer my opinion but you know your life best so keep seeking opportunities that you're over-looking.Unfortunately, hard money or private money looks like your best bet thus far.

Best bet would be to walk a couple contractors through and see what the estimates are.