I'd say it's a risky assumption in the days when everything is smoke and mirrors.

Well on the exit walk through there was oily black soot stains on the walls in areas, mirroring the outlines of furniture and wall photos.

Unfortunately, my "@" mention feature doesn't always work, which is why @Chris Mason is not hyperlinked in this reply! 

"love and affection" is enough in some jurisdictions even though unfortunately it sounds like that may be in the rear-view mirror here.But the point you are essentially raising is that this isn't fair... and yes, any attorney who takes OP's case will definitely be looking into equitable causes of action which are based in fairness.

@Douglas SkipworthYour take on it pretty much mirrors my own.

Go in the bathroom and look in the mirror. 

Smoke and mirrors. 

Anyway, I'm hesitant to post anything here because so many people have been vocal about how only an idiot would fall for their smoke and mirrors...and that might be true.

Choose your poison carefully.There is no excuse, but to look in the mirror and say that I can do better.

I just think if somebody blows their money on an obvious scam, the person they should be blaming is in their mirror.