So please, direct me to whomever that is.I then get a call about 2 days after this letter would have been delivered from the agent and we cleared up any misunderstandings about the coincidental nature of this particular property and my yellow letter mailings (in which I do disclose I am an agent).    

They come to us with a tremendous mis-understanding of what you may and may not do with a self directed IRA.

Either there is a misunderstanding or the people offering you advice do not understand California tax laws.Whether an LLC is manager or member managed does not affect whether it is a disregarded entity or not.

Most people drastically misunderstand what an LLC actually is and how it provides protection. 

So I'm insistent because I felt like I must be misunderstanding or overlooking something that others understand better...and again that's why I'm here.Their claim is that it's secured by this real estate, but yeah, that part I wasn't seeing was some sort of filing with a county and the ability for me to foreclose one way or another. 

Ask for referrals to busy divorce attorneys (but make sure to tell your wife WHY you are asking so there are no misunderstandings).

Make sure your agreement is in writing to avoid miscommunication and misunderstandings, and don't make the final payment until you are completely satisfied with the job. 

Am I misunderstanding the listing?

Misunderstanding with contractor resulted in him putting the door to back yard there instead of in the dining room like I wanted.  

Many deals have fallen thru or ended up in court over a misunderstand as to HOW a contract is filled out.