I know it's unorthodox to pay for a bpo, but given the circumstances and wanting to be respectful of his time, how much do you think would be fair to offer to compensate them for the bpo?

With respects to taxes (mainly depreciation), are you doing using a Cost Segregation model or straight-line depreciation? 

First, if you are able to invest in your own market and make a respectable return AND have the possibility to own appreciating assets, my advice would always be to follow that path.  

He needs a agent that will understand and respect his clients position.

I came away with a chunk of change, the respect of family and their potential business, and a couple extra grey hairs.The highlights of this experience?

There are also a handful of attorneys and CPA's out there that will provide tax guidance with respect to your operation of a custodian held account.

Traditional people from cultures that actually respect marriage.Met a bunch of them.

I currently have one business card each for both of them through capital one that I got using personal guarantees but the credit limits are very low (1000 and 500 respectively)but I keep the utilization rate sub 20%.

Currently with NACA loans, the max purchase price for a 2 and 3 family is 460k and 560k respectively.  

If you want to become respected in your RE community, it is imperative that you become accurate with those estimates and that you honestly tell your buyers about the list of repairs.7.