I've been trying to ease her concerns with running numbers... but she's also is not too crazy about the idea of house hacking/living with strangers.- I did some comps, and used rentometer and it seems I can get around a .8-.85% rent to property value in these areas after renovation costs of 40k-60k (~20% ARV value).

In short, chances are you are well within your legal right in normal circumstances to show the place, but your tenant also will have legitimate concerns with the current pandemic to avoid strangers trouncing their place and not following protocols that keep them safe.

I’d rather give my returns to a friend rather then a stranger.

It is irresponsible to the tenants to walk strangers through their house at this time.

I wouldn't want strangers coming and going at all hours of the day while my kids were playing in the backyard. 

I think this can be useful for everyone, but I think the people who will benefit the most are the newbies who are not very comfortable with phone calls, talking to strangers, etc.

This was our way of "house hacking" without needing to live with\near strangers. 3.

My wife overheard an random conversation between two strangers regarding Bigger Pockets and immediately proceeds to call me to tell me about this forum (two strangers had a lot of good things to say).

Yes, you read the last part correctly, the tenant in direct violation invited in a transient stranger into her rented unit to stay with her. 

Watch yourself.If you are using the web to find lenders, soliciting strangers, sending your personal financial info to them, and perhaps up-front fees, you will get hammered Justin.