Making Successful Friends

[Alex SImon]

So, I've found myself in an odd place lately:  I'm successful.  For me, that's brand new, and I don't know how to deal with it properly; I'm much more accustomed to the whole "three part-time jobs and scrambling to make rent" scenario, but I'll gladly take where I'm at over where I was. 

Anyway.  The other day, I realized that I really don't have any successful friends.  It's not anyone's fault, really.  The economy sucks for most people and if I hadn't left the country to pursue a dangerous career move, I'd still be stuck in the muck alongside everyone I ever knew.  But it does present an impediment since I don't know anyone on a personal level who can remotely relate to the stuff I'm doing in my life.

So how do you go about making new, successful friends?  I mean, don't get me wrong I network like anyone else.  But when we network on sites like BP, we're just falling into symbiotic relationships, essentially using each other as tools for mutual benefit (i.e., lenders and buyers and sellers all coming together to do business in good faith), and that's great for what it is.  But actually being able to connect on a personal level is pretty rare.

Anyone got any advice on upgrading my social circle?

[Ruth Bayang]

Do you go to your local REIAs? Surely there are other successful people there like you who want to hang out and socialize outside of business. I know there are handful I have met through my local REIA and at other REIA meetups.

[Alex SImon]

Unfortunately, I'm stuck in the middle of Saudi Arabia. So there's no local REIA club I could go to, and even if there was I'm not usually free to go off compound. Contractor life, ya know? That was the first thing I looked for.

[Patrick Squires]

The problem I find in this pursuit is successful people have all read the other post "How to avoid unsuccessful people". jk!

[Lisa Hoover]

Hi
If you are in Saudi Arabia... your social circle must be all on-line?? virtual??

[Alex SImon]

Yeah, it's mostly virtual these days but eventually I'll move back to the states.  At this point I'm seeing if I can convince some of the decent-ish guys over here to stop buying race cars and start investing with me.  Intelligent money management doesn't really resonate with grunts, though.  Mostly because rental properties aren't painted cherry red with flame decals.

[Pamela Trull]

Makin successful friends is a talent and of course a blessing. I don't believe in social media friends. Good communication is the prior thing for getting a successful friend. Once we lose a friend, it is a loss forever.

[Holly Baum]

Maybe start a "meetup" with something you are interested in?  I saw someone from the Miracle Morning community who is also in Saudi Arabia. 

[Shermina Shelby]

I agree with Pamela. Fake friendships through social media are getting popular nowadays. Chose wisely or else you would have to regret.